0:00:03.5 Lauri Wakefield: Welcome, thanks for joining us today. I’m Lauri.

0:00:05.9 Leslee Wegleitner: Hi everyone, I’m Leslee.

0:00:07.7 Lauri Wakefield: So today we have a guest, Paula Schuster is joining us and she is a Reiki Master and Life Coach. So we wanted to introduce everyone to her and to start asking her some questions. [laughter] You ready, Paula?

0:00:25.2 Paula Schuster: I’m ready.

0:00:27.7 Leslee Wegleitner: I snorted.

0:00:28.6 Lauri Wakefield: Yeah, you did.

0:00:29.1 Leslee Wegleitner: Oops.

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0:00:30.2 Lauri Wakefield: Okay, so let’s see. Yeah, Leslee, that was kind of rude.

0:00:34.3 Leslee Wegleitner: I know. [laughter] Sorry.

0:00:35.6 Lauri Wakefield: I’m just kidding.

0:00:36.9 Leslee Wegleitner: Laughing, snorting.

0:00:37.8 Paula Schuster: You guys are fun.

0:00:40.1 Lauri Wakefield: Okay. So anyway, Paula, do you wanna give us a little bit of background? ‘Cause when I went to your website and just kinda poked around in there, I saw that you actually started with Reiki. Do you wanna talk a little bit about that journey?

0:00:55.4 Paula Schuster: Sure. A lot of people are called to learn Reiki. And I wasn’t necessarily called, but I had a friend ask me if I wanted to go on a retreat to Mexico to get trained in Reiki. And it would be on a beach and then so I thought, “well, why wouldn’t I wanna go? Yes.” I said, “Yes,” knowing like next to nothing about Reiki. And I was working in my corporate job at the time. And I thought, “oh, I’ll have some time to research it before we go. And of course, I got busy with my corporate job and that didn’t happen. And so I knew nothing going into this Reiki training other than Reiki was energy healing. And it was a 7-day retreat. And I was trained in all three levels of Reiki in those 7-days. And I had a Big Bang awakening.

0:01:53.1 Leslee Wegleitner: Yeah. [laughter]

0:01:53.3 Paula Schuster: During the…

0:01:54.2 Leslee Wegleitner: I was gonna say, wow, that’s a lot. [laughter]

0:01:57.3 Paula Schuster: I remember during my Reiki one attunement, I remember literally like coming home to myself. I felt my soul come back into my heart. Like it was just this, it almost makes me cry to talk about it, because it was just this profound healing experience. And I felt the layers just fall away. But after that week I was trained on all three levels. And I came home after that 7 days, a completely different person. Like it just changed my life completely. I didn’t talk the same. I didn’t think the same. I didn’t look the same. I didn’t care about the same things. I didn’t eat the same. I mean, I came home and my teenage kids were like, “Who are you? [laughter] We don’t even know who you are anymore.” And I said, “I don’t know who I am either. I’m becoming.” [laughter] And it was just this, and it was kind of, that was a big transformational point in my journey to being more authentic to myself. And I’m walking on the earth now more authentically than I’ve, and being more authentically myself than I have in probably 35 years.

0:03:05.2 Lauri Wakefield: Wow. Yeah, I was just gonna ask, so when did you go through the Reiki training? How many years ago?

0:03:12.7 Paula Schuster: It was, fairly recent, it was October of 2020.

0:03:15.9 Lauri Wakefield: Okay, wow. Yeah, it’s a couple of years. Yeah, I was just gonna say something that’s kind of silly and totally off the subject, [laughter] but when you were saying, “Who are you”, did you ever see the movie Date Night with, oh gosh, [laughter] Steve Carell and Tina Fey, have you ever seen that?

0:03:34.2 Paula Schuster: Yeah.

0:03:34.8 Lauri Wakefield: So like she breaks the window when they’re trying to get into the lawyer’s office and he’s like, looks at her and he’s like smiling. He’s like, “Who are you?” [laughter] I remember that.

0:03:45.4 Leslee Wegleitner: Oh, funny.

0:03:45.8 Lauri Wakefield: Yeah. So anyway, Leslee, did you wanna ask Paula some questions?

0:03:51.6 Leslee Wegleitner: So then that kind of morphed into coaching. So how did that kind of come about?

0:04:03.8 Paula Schuster: Sure. Yeah, after that initial Reiki training, I came home and and I saw other types of Reiki like Holy Fire Reiki, and I got trained in those and went through further attunements. And then I went back to Yandara Yoga Institute, which is where I was trained in Reiki. It’s in Baja, Mexico. And I went back for my certification in life coaching. And it was just this beautiful experience, again, I mean, it’s not only the people there and the land that you’re on, it’s the teachers and just the environment.

0:04:35.1 Lauri Wakefield: The energy, yeah.

0:04:37.6 Paula Schuster: There’s like a vortex of energy on that property. You can feel it when you step foot on the property. Anyway, I went back there to get my life coaching certification and my teacher was just this beautiful example of exactly what I wanted to be. This sort of this person with all this internal peace. And anyway, I learned so much on that, getting certified as a coach and just, it was another awakening and more awareness and shedding of more layers and just this whole other healing experience. And I added coaching to my services and have slowly, sort of slowly got started. And It’s just my favorite part. I had initially stepped forward with Reiki and coaching is more fulfilling to me now. I do still love practicing Reiki, but I would rather coach all day long. And then when I do a Reiki session, I’m reminded of how much I do love it. And oh.

0:05:40.6 Lauri Wakefield: Yeah. With your coaching clients, do you ever combine the Reiki sessions with them? A percentage-wise, how many people want that in addition to the coaching?

0:05:53.2 Paula Schuster: It’s… Well, actually, almost all of my clients also see me for Reiki, but they see me for coaching more frequently than the Reiki.

0:06:03.1 Lauri Wakefield: Okay.

0:06:03.6 Paula Schuster: Yeah, but I just love it because I’m given the gift of helping someone see what they have within themselves, but they can’t see for themselves. They are given the gift of awareness and empowerment, and it’s just such a beautiful process. I love it.

0:06:20.4 Lauri Wakefield: Yeah, it is.

0:06:21.1 Leslee Wegleitner: Well, I just have to add, so of course, we had to pull up your chart and check it out, and you’re a five two Profile, which is all about sharing practical solutions and being a problem solver and having a practical impact on the world. So I found that was pretty fitting that you’re going into the coaching. And then you’re also the Left Angle Cross of the Alpha, which is all about leadership and influence. And I’m like, “okay, she’s on her path, she’s going.”

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0:06:50.9 Leslee Wegleitner: And it’s really a powerful initiating energy that often leads to new experiences or new beginnings for people. So there you go with your coaching and all that. And I just found, it was just, those couple little things. As I was looking at your chart, I just thought, “wow, it’s really true.” You know what I mean? It’s like, it’s really part of who you are as you have evolved in the last few years. So.

0:07:21.6 Paula Schuster: I love that. Thank you for bringing that in. And it’s funny because I have kind of another real life example of that, because these new experiences and new beginnings, like my wife, it feels like she’s strapped to this rocket that I am. Because ever since I’ve been on this healing journey and becoming more of myself and sort of shedding all the conditioning, I’m just all over the place. I’m like, “oh, I wanna try that,” and, “oh, I wanna… “

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0:07:46.2 Paula Schuster: “I’m gonna go off and do this now.” And before I had just done the same thing all the time. And so now she just feels like I’m insecure and unstable, but really I’m becoming.

0:08:00.2 Leslee Wegleitner: Right.

0:08:00.5 Lauri Wakefield: So do you find, like what you were just saying there, do you find that it’s something that you see and it’s in response to that? Or are you actually seeking it, or do you know what I’m saying?

0:08:09.0 Paula Schuster: I feel for once in my life, I’m following my heart.

0:08:13.7 Lauri Wakefield: Okay. Okay. Yeah, because… Well, just, you are a Manifesting Generator and usually the way that that works is they, if they’re responding to something, they move into action immediately, pretty immediately. So, yeah. Even with the Reiki thing, you probably didn’t sit back and like, “oh.” You know what I mean? It was like, “yeah, that’s it, and I’m doing it now, or as soon as I can.” Was it kinda like that?

0:08:38.2 Leslee Wegleitner: Yeah. I was thinking, yeah.

0:08:39.6 Paula Schuster: Yeah. Well, that’s totally me. An example of that is that I quit my corporate job a year ago last May after more than 25 years to pursue more purposeful work. And I was the one making more money, and so there was a… It was a big shift and we had been talking about it, but I had kind of come to my wits end and I’m just like, I’m doing it.

0:09:03.5 Lauri Wakefield: Right. Right. Yeah. Because I think you just get to the point sometimes where it’s like you just want to do what feels right for you, you know what I mean? And once you get on that path and it opens up doors to other things that kind of like, they branch out from what’s right for you. Do you know what I’m saying?

0:09:27.0 Paula Schuster: Absolutely. And what you’re saying right now, it’s resonating, totally.

0:09:30.4 Lauri Wakefield: Yeah. Yeah. So, okay. So then you, well, you also developed a program, that’s a self-love program, right?

0:09:40.4 Paula Schuster: Yes. Yeah.

0:09:41.3 Lauri Wakefield: So do you wanna talk a little bit about that?

0:09:43.4 Paula Schuster: Absolutely. I’d love to. It’s a workshop on cultivating self-love. And to be honest, I’m not sure if I need to rename it, because you know how people don’t know what they need sometimes. But anyway, I’ve found that my clients have a lack of self-love. They abandon themselves routinely and they don’t choose and prioritize themselves, which I get, I was that person for 30 years.

0:10:08.7 Lauri Wakefield: Right.

0:10:11.2 Paula Schuster: And then I was in this coaching program myself earlier this year for three months. It was an intense kind of program, not to teach me coaching, but to coach me, to rewire me to help me. And through that program, and it was kinda like I was going through this coaching program and all of this was kind of coming together with everything I was seeing in my clients and it’s sort of converging at the same time. And I just birthed this class one night and just a mini version of it. I did it, it just like, it was stream of consciousness, 20 minutes. And I created it like a smaller, like a two hour version. And I invited some of my friends to come and go through it with me for free in exchange for their feedback, ’cause I wanted to know, should I develop it into an all day workshop. And the feedback was a resounding yes. But just some of the things that we do or that the feedback from the women who have gone through it, people just gain so much awareness and perspective that inspires change, and they love the tools and practices because they’re easy and effective, and they, everybody walks away feeling a shift toward being more compassionate and gentle toward themselves.

0:11:34.0 Leslee Wegleitner: So can you give us a little idea of like a tool that would help break some of these habits for people that come into your workshop?

0:11:43.1 Paula Schuster: Oh my gosh, yes. Absolutely. There’s like 10 tools that we go through and we get into it, we do them all in the workshop, but meditation is the number one. It’s having a consistent, spiritual practice like meditation and the… I remember the person who shared that with me. It was actually, when I was getting an astrology reading, the week that I was getting trained in Reiki the first time in October, 2020, I signed up for astrology reading between the training sessions and Shiva Das, I remember what he said. He asked me if I had a spiritual practice and I said, “well, I do yoga a couple times a week.” And he chuckled a little bit at me, and he’s like, “no, I mean like meditation or a daily practice.” He’s like, “you don’t have one. You need to meditate for 10 minutes a day.” And I really took that to heart, but it still took me two years to get consistent with my practice. Years following that, I would do it here and there and I would let it go. And now I am consistent. Well, I noticed when I’m not consistent and I didn’t meditate first thing the other morning and I ended up being nasty to my wife.

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0:12:53.7 Leslee Wegleitner: Well, it’s amazing. Like your whole day is off. I’ve been probably doing a daily practice for, oh gosh, 20 years.

0:13:04.1 Lauri Wakefield: Wow. Leslee, you never told me that.

0:13:05.8 Leslee Wegleitner: Yeah. And it has morphed and changed, but I get up and I have a little routine that I do and sometimes it’s an hour long, which, but in different things. But I notice, if I don’t do it, my day is off.

0:13:21.2 Paula Schuster: Yep. Cool.

0:13:22.5 Leslee Wegleitner: It’s amazing. Yeah.

0:13:23.8 Paula Schuster: Yeah.

0:13:25.3 Leslee Wegleitner: I agree with that 100%.

0:13:28.4 Paula Schuster: I can talk about some of the other things that we, some of the other tools if you want, or we can move on.

0:13:33.0 Lauri Wakefield: Well, we can… Yeah, not that I don’t want you to, it’s just that, it’s like part of the program, so if people are interested… Then do you actually do, is it all live events or is it something that people could take virtually?

0:13:49.0 Paula Schuster: I’m doing them live right now.

0:13:50.2 Lauri Wakefield: Okay.

0:13:50.3 Paula Schuster: I really feel like people are, I’m craving community and connection.

0:13:56.3 Lauri Wakefield: Okay.

0:13:56.9 Paula Schuster: Other people are too. And that’s one of the things that we do is build that when we’re together and we can do that in person and we can do it online, but I still feel like…

0:14:08.4 Lauri Wakefield: Prefer it in person, yeah.

0:14:09.6 Paula Schuster: That intimacy is so important.

0:14:11.3 Lauri Wakefield: Have you ever thought about doing a retreat or something?

0:14:14.6 Paula Schuster: Oh my gosh, yes. I would love to do retreats. Yeah. I just haven’t stepped out with it yet.

0:14:18.9 Leslee Wegleitner: Yeah.

0:14:19.3 Paula Schuster: I need a partner to kind of sit with me for the first time.

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0:14:23.4 Leslee Wegleitner: Yeah. We know.

0:14:24.1 Lauri Wakefield: Yeah, I know what you mean, because I’ve thought about retreats for a couple years. Well, you can talk more about it. I just figured if you were doing it online, then we wouldn’t wanna talk too much about what’s part of it. But since it’s a live thing, if you wanna add a couple more things out of the town, that’s fine.

0:14:44.2 Paula Schuster: Oh, thanks. Yeah. So some of the cool things that we do, we learn EFT tapping.

0:14:50.6 Lauri Wakefield: Okay.

0:14:51.1 Paula Schuster: To help with some of the deeper patterns. And another one is we do this really cool worthiness exercise that really… It breaks through generational patterns really around worthiness, so.

0:15:15.8 Leslee Wegleitner: Nice. Well, and I have to add this again ’cause we’re human design experts here. You have a completely open ego or will center, and that means it’s about worthiness. And so when you have a completely open, you don’t have a hanging gate or anything connected to it is you are here to be wise about worthiness.

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0:15:39.1 Lauri Wakefield: Isn’t that interesting?

0:15:40.5 Leslee Wegleitner: So, yeah. So here’s another connection to your work. Yep.

0:15:44.6 Paula Schuster: That’s amazing. I’ve struggled with that all my life, all my life, because there’s like, well, there’s lots of abuse in my past and stuff like that. And just the household I grew up in, so I have struggled with… And that’s one of the things I still.

0:16:03.6 Leslee Wegleitner: But that’s where the wisdom comes in. We have to go through the experiences to have the wisdom. So the conditioning of that center is what provides you now with the wisdom to step out and help others. So, yeah. Very cool.

0:16:19.2 Lauri Wakefield: So I wanted to ask you too, just going back to Reiki. So I noticed that you… Do you do virtual? Mainly you do them in person, but you also offer virtual. Do you ever have people sign up for that?

0:16:33.2 Paula Schuster: I haven’t yet. But one of my teacher that’s local here to Minnesota she does online trainings all the time, and so that’s kind of why I just offer it in case someone wants that, but…

0:16:49.7 Lauri Wakefield: Like a virtual Reiki session, where they would…

0:16:52.8 Paula Schuster: Oh, you mean an individual session?

0:16:54.3 Lauri Wakefield: Yes. Yes.

0:16:54.3 Paula Schuster: I thought you were talking about training. I’m sorry.

0:16:56.9 Lauri Wakefield: No.

0:16:57.0 Paula Schuster: I thought you were talking about training. Yeah, I do distance Reiki for sure.

0:17:02.0 Leslee Wegleitner: I was gonna say I had one.

0:17:04.4 Lauri Wakefield: Okay.

0:17:04.8 Leslee Wegleitner: I’ve done one with Nick.

0:17:06.7 Lauri Wakefield: Yeah. Yeah, ’cause I asked Leslee about it, like if… ‘Cause I’ve heard of it before. I actually, this is so weird, I don’t wanna be talking about myself. But anyway, I went to my first Reiki session, it was actually a week ago today, first. And I didn’t actually put Reiki and energy healing together [chuckle] So I was just, I was gonna see an energy healer. But when you were talking about, when you felt like your soul coming back into your body, I had an experience where she was touching my abdominal area. And it was like, I just like the, what was going through, and I wouldn’t say my mind, but visually what I was seeing was like, this myself between the ages of maybe two and four, just as a confused, scared little kid, ’cause I had abuse in my family too. But anyway, and like me, as my grownup self, I just put my arms on her and I just hugged her. You know what I mean? And it was tear… I wasn’t crying like a baby or anything, but it was tears just out of nowhere, just started.

0:18:10.0 Leslee Wegleitner: Very powerful.

0:18:12.2 Lauri Wakefield: It was interesting. It was very, very interesting.

0:18:14.8 Paula Schuster: What a beautiful experience. I love hearing those stories.

0:18:19.2 Lauri Wakefield: Yeah.

0:18:20.2 Leslee Wegleitner: Yeah.

0:18:21.2 Lauri Wakefield: So, but yeah, I was curious about that. And then I also, when I was looking at the Reiki, so you actually do corporate, you’ll go to companies that wanna do it for their staff, right?

0:18:30.0 Paula Schuster: Yes, I don’t actually have a corporate client yet, but I am working on that. So that’s why I have all that information up on my website. I had created all that package and all that plan. So I’m hoping to step into that.

0:18:43.2 Lauri Wakefield: Yeah. So I wanna ask you this, and the only reason I’m asking is because I wanted to… So like, if somebody wanted you maybe in Wisconsin or maybe in Michigan or some other place, would you travel there to do it? Or is it something that you would do routinely? Like it’s a company that contracted you and you’d go there maybe once a month, you know what I’m saying? Could it be like a one-time thing if a company wanted you to go there?

0:19:11.0 Paula Schuster: I love that you asked that question, Lauri, because you just opened up my mind to something I had not been thinking of. So thank you.

0:19:19.1 Lauri Wakefield: Yeah.

0:19:20.0 Paula Schuster: I had been thinking that it would be local, right. That I would go in and it would be like a once a month thing or a once every two weeks or something like that. Some regular thing, because I guess the reason why I was thinking that is because Reiki has a cumulative effect.

0:19:37.7 Lauri Wakefield: Right.

0:19:39.4 Paula Schuster: And it’s more powerful when you are having it done regularly. I mean, it still works of course, and it’s powerful in gentle way even if you’re just getting one session. But if you are getting it on a regular basis, it’s just deeper and deeper. But so I would, I would be open to doing a one-time thing.

0:20:02.1 Lauri Wakefield: Yeah. Or like even like… Okay, so if you had somebody doing Reiki with you, would you recommend like once a week, once every couple of weeks or once a month? I mean, how does that, how do you do that?

0:20:13.6 Paula Schuster: So it kind of depends on what a person has going on and what they’re looking for. So if somebody is coming to me with some physical issues from like car accident or something like that, definitely weekly. Or if there’s some other, if they have a lot of mental or emotional suffering going on, some big event that has caused that, something sort of bigger going on than just everyday life, which my gosh is enough in and of itself. But then I would say more frequently, at least in the beginning, until we get like four weeks in and then we reevaluate.

0:20:54.5 Lauri Wakefield: Yeah. Okay. So part of the reason why I was asking that, and I don’t mean to keep asking questions, Leslee, I’ll stop.

0:21:00.2 Leslee Wegleitner: No, go ahead. You’re doing good.

0:21:02.7 Lauri Wakefield: So what I was gonna ask is, okay, if it was something like, if you did like say a corporate thing like in another state and you had to travel there, so if somebody, if a company wanted to say, “well, can you come out here once a month,” is that something you’d be open to?

0:21:18.8 Paula Schuster: I mean, if they’re willing to, like the price has to be right, right?

0:21:23.4 Lauri Wakefield: No, no, no, no. I understand all that. I do, I do.

0:21:25.9 Paula Schuster: Yeah. And I don’t want that to sound bad, but you know why.

0:21:30.9 Lauri Wakefield: No, no, no, no, no. I mean, you’ve travel expenses and things like that.

0:21:33.4 Paula Schuster: Yeah.

0:21:33.4 Lauri Wakefield: That was kind of a weird question probably, but I was just curious because I know it’s a cumulative thing, but like say a company is like, “wow, that sounds really interesting. We’d like to have Paula come out and offer to our employees one day and then maybe come back in a month or like three months or whatever.” You know what I’m saying? I just…

0:21:55.5 Paula Schuster: I would definitely be open to that.

0:21:56.5 Lauri Wakefield: Yeah.

0:21:57.1 Paula Schuster: I just love sharing these gifts and tools as much as possible. And so I’m open. I’m wide open.

0:22:06.2 Lauri Wakefield: Yeah. So, anyway, like the life coaching, did you wanna ask some questions about that, Leslee?

0:22:13.6 Leslee Wegleitner: Yeah. Well, I’m just wondering, have you noticed a specific theme that your clients bring about with like struggle with self-love? Is there a theme that you’ve noticed that keeps coming up for people?

0:22:31.6 Paula Schuster: Yeah. It’s basically around all of the conditioning that we’ve received all of our lives, right? It’s the good girl conditioning, which is another thing that I work on in my workshop. We talk all about good girl conditioning. Don’t be too… Be beautiful, but not too beautiful. Have a nice body, but don’t be boastful about it, or be a good mom, but don’t show that you’re a mom at work or don’t let your work be affected… It’s like all this stuff. And not only that, but limiting what we are capable of. And so those are the themes. And what that has led to is a lack of self-love for ourself, a lack of choosing ourself. And so we love them back into life. Me and my clients, like we love, I help love them back into life is kind of how we look at it.

0:23:35.7 Lauri Wakefield: Yeah. When you were talking about limiting, I was thinking too about how we limit the things that we’ll do for ourselves to make ourselves feel better. Even going and getting a massage and things like that, you know what I’m saying?

0:23:51.6 Leslee Wegleitner: Yeah. Yeah. Or I’m thinking that the speaking, like we speak things, but we aren’t completely speaking it, because if you do, then you’re notified as a big B. It’s like, when you wanna come, and I wanna say forcefully, but you wanna say it like it is like this isn’t working because boom, boom, boom, boom. A lot of times we’re putting on the soft touch of like, “well, maybe we should try this.” [laughter]

0:24:25.8 Paula Schuster: Because we’ve been trained to be people pleasers all of our life.

0:24:30.8 Leslee Wegleitner: Right.

0:24:31.4 Paula Schuster: Women, especially, so we used to have no power for thousands of years, and then now we have power and we give it away.

0:24:38.6 Leslee Wegleitner: Yes.

0:24:38.9 Paula Schuster: Because we’re trained to constantly serve from an empty cup and to run around and make sure everyone around us is happy and not mad at us or feeling okay or whatever, and to basically turn off our power and to quiet our authenticity.

0:25:01.4 Leslee Wegleitner: Right.

0:25:02.2 Paula Schuster: That’s what we’re taught. And so it just leads to this complete abandonment of self all the time. And all of the little, the little decisions that we make every day, even… Not buying the same pair of shoes because a friend has them. [laughter]

0:25:21.3 Leslee Wegleitner: Yeah.

0:25:21.9 Paula Schuster: You know?

0:25:22.9 Leslee Wegleitner: Yeah.

0:25:23.0 Paula Schuster: It boils down…

0:25:23.9 Lauri Wakefield: Yeah. I do.

0:25:24.4 Paula Schuster: To little things like that even. All the way up to the bigger things where we’re really abandoning ourselves when some, I don’t know, maybe we agreed to do something that our whole body is saying no to, and we say yes anyway.

0:25:39.7 Lauri Wakefield: Yeah. I’ll tell you, that’s something I’ve gotten pretty good at saying no, like probably over the past 10 to 15 years. It’s… You know what I mean? But Yeah, I know that feeling. And it’s like, if you don’t wanna do it, just tell them… You don’t have to make up an excuse. You don’t have to give a reason. You just say, “no, I am… You know.

0:25:55.7 Paula Schuster: Yeah. And just own that and be okay.

0:25:56.8 Lauri Wakefield: Exactly. Exactly.

0:25:57.7 Paula Schuster: Let them get mad if they’re gonna… And let them have their experience. That’s another thing. Like we carry all of, that’s a huge thing. We carry this responsibility for other people.

0:26:10.5 Leslee Wegleitner: Someone else’s response is not our business, you know what I mean? It’s like, let them respond and that’s their stuff to deal with. [laughter]

0:26:19.6 Lauri Wakefield: Yeah. And I think, I find like most people, it’s like every… If you’re upfront about it, at least, I don’t know… I find that they’re just like, “okay… “| And find someone else. But like, I know with myself, I would rather have somebody, like if I ask them and they don’t want to, just tell me, it’s not gonna hurt my feelings. I’ll find someone else.

0:26:41.3 Paula Schuster: Exactly. Usually when we end up just being honest and being true to ourselves and what we really need and want…

0:26:46.5 Lauri Wakefield: Yeah.

0:26:46.9 Paula Schuster: Another person is really okay with it.

0:26:49.2 Lauri Wakefield: Yeah.

0:26:49.3 Paula Schuster: We carried all this crap for no reason.

0:26:51.3 Lauri Wakefield: Yeah.

0:26:51.3 Leslee Wegleitner: I know. It’s like you’re in neutrality because you’re in your truth.

0:26:57.4 Lauri Wakefield: Yes. Yeah.

0:26:57.9 Leslee Wegleitner: And so nobody can object to that.

0:27:01.1 Lauri Wakefield: Right.

0:27:01.3 Leslee Wegleitner: It’s like they just take it and they know it’s truth. And so there’s no wiggle room to try to convince you or guilt you or shame you or whatever the strategy might be. So I find that to be so true. It’s like, if I’m very clear and in my statement, then there’s no pushback, it just is.

0:27:20.5 Lauri Wakefield: Yeah. And it’s not a forceful statement when you’re just being like, truthful about it, the way you feel about it, you’re just like being matter of fact about it.

0:27:28.2 Leslee Wegleitner: Right, right.

0:27:30.5 Paula Schuster: I love that. I just wrote that down, Leslee, you’re in neutrality because you’re in your truth.

0:27:34.1 Leslee Wegleitner: Yeah. So that’s been a… My teacher speaking it. So it sounds like your coaching would be a lot of supportive work, like really supporting them through the change.

0:27:50.9 Paula Schuster: Yes, absolutely.

0:27:52.2 Leslee Wegleitner: Yeah.

0:27:53.1 Paula Schuster: And I like that you included the word work. [chuckle] Because it’s work.

0:27:58.1 Leslee Wegleitner: It is.

0:28:02.9 Paula Schuster: The person being coached, the client is doing all the work.

0:28:07.8 Leslee Wegleitner: Yeah.

0:28:08.1 Paula Schuster: I’m just helping a little bit along the way and guiding a little bit along the way. I’m not giving a ton of advice, I’m not showing up for them. They have to show up for themselves. And so that’s a conversation we have in discovery causes, are you ready to do the work? If you’re not, then there’s no point in this.

0:28:27.3 Lauri Wakefield: Right.

0:28:27.9 Leslee Wegleitner: Right. It is, ’cause it’s exhausting.

0:28:30.8 Paula Schuster: Yeah.

0:28:31.0 Leslee Wegleitner: To change those beliefs and those patterns. It’s not a… Yeah. It takes a lot of courage and…

0:28:38.1 Paula Schuster: Consistency.

0:28:39.0 Leslee Wegleitner: Yeah. Consistency. And reflection and… Yep.

0:28:43.2 Lauri Wakefield: And willingness to look at things that are hard to look at sometimes.

0:28:46.5 Leslee Wegleitner: Yeah.

0:28:47.8 Paula Schuster: Right.

0:28:48.3 Leslee Wegleitner: Responsibility. Yeah.

0:28:49.9 Paula Schuster: Yeah. Accountability, which is one of the things I help with, right? Like they end up being accountable ’cause they don’t wanna… Even if it’s they don’t wanna disappoint me, at least it gets them going in the right direction in the first place than they end up doing it for themselves, but…

0:29:08.4 Paula Schuster: Yeah. So, Leslee, do you have any other questions or did you have anything else you wanted to add, Paula?

0:29:16.4 Paula Schuster: Leslee, do you have any other questions?

0:29:18.6 Leslee Wegleitner: I don’t think so.

0:29:20.1 Paula Schuster: Okay.

0:29:21.0 Lauri Wakefield: Okay. So if you’d like to check out Paula’s website especially if you live… Are you in the Minneapolis area? Is that okay to say that?

0:29:30.0 Paula Schuster: Yeah, absolutely. I live in like the Hopkins, Minnetonka area.

0:29:34.9 Lauri Wakefield: Okay. Okay. So if you’re local to that area, Paula has, she offers life coaching and Reiki sessions and then the self-love… They’re events, right? Is it an event?

0:29:50.3 Paula Schuster: Yeah, it’s a workshop. In fact, I’m hosting one tomorrow and then I will be doing them monthly.

0:29:57.0 Lauri Wakefield: Okay. Okay. And then you’re also… Well, I saw events. You’re doing a couple of events. You’re doing something with a sound healer, right?

0:30:05.6 Paula Schuster: Yeah. Thanks for asking.

0:30:06.8 Lauri Wakefield: Yeah.

0:30:07.6 Paula Schuster: Yep. I partnered with this beautiful sound healer. She’s amazing. And we have a Reiki infused sound bath coming up on September 21st.

0:30:18.8 Lauri Wakefield: Okay. And then there’s another event I thought I saw, did I or not? Maybe I just made that up. [chuckle]

0:30:26.7 Paula Schuster: Well, I do Reiki shares. But I don’t have any scheduled right now.

0:30:32.6 Lauri Wakefield: Okay.

0:30:32.9 Paula Schuster: I wasn’t doing ’em over the summer because I was gone out of the country for a while. But I think the other thing that you might be thinking about, Lauri, is my cultivating self-love workshop, ’cause it’s under events in the website. So maybe that was it.

0:30:47.0 Lauri Wakefield: Okay. So if you’re local to that area, the Minnetonka area, you can check out the events on Paula’s website. It is www.reikiflowmn.com, and we’ll put that in the show notes. And then also, if you’re not local, but you’d like to experience a virtual Reiki session, you can schedule one by going to her website. And then if there are any listeners who have a company or know of, like their employer might want someone to maybe do a Reiki session, maybe they can contact Paula and just see if it’s something that would work for both parties. So do you have anything that you wanna add to that before we get into the actual closing, [chuckle] of the session?

0:31:43.3 Paula Schuster: Just that for the corporate Reiki that I’d be willing to come in and give somebody a free session so that they can experience what it would be like. And also go walk them through one of my guided meditations.

0:31:56.2 Lauri Wakefield: Okay.

0:31:56.8 Paula Schuster: And then also I do in-person Reiki sessions too and distance, so.

0:32:00.1 Lauri Wakefield: Okay.

0:32:01.2 Leslee Wegleitner: Perfect.

0:32:03.0 Lauri Wakefield: So thanks, thanks so much for joining us today, Paula.

0:32:05.5 Leslee Wegleitner: Yeah, thank you.

0:32:06.5 Lauri Wakefield: So it’s actually the first time I met you, but you and Leslee have known each other for a while…

0:32:11.9 Paula Schuster: A little bit. Yeah.

0:32:13.5 Lauri Wakefield: Yeah. So that’s gonna wrap things up for this episode. Thanks so much for joining us today. In our next episode, we’ve invited another guest to join us and she is actually one of the rare reflectors, so that’ll be interesting. If you’d like to see the show notes for today’s podcast, you can find them on our website at www.alignandachievebydesign.com. The show notes will be listed under podcast episode 41. And like I said, in the show notes, we’ll have a link to Paula’s website. If you’d like to join us as we continue our exploration into topics about human design and other complimentary modalities, please be sure to subscribe to our podcast. Thanks again and have a great day.

0:32:57.0 Leslee Wegleitner: Thanks everyone.

0:32:58.3 Paula Schuster: Yeah, thanks.

0:33:00.8 Lauri Wakefield: Can you end it?