0:00:01.0 Lauri Wakefield: Welcome. Thanks for joining us today. I’m Lauri.

0:00:04.5 Leslee Wegleitner: Welcome back everyone. This is Leslee.

0:00:07.0 Lauri Wakefield: Yeah, so I was just gonna say quickly before we get into this, that we actually recorded this podcast last Friday, and I did something wrong and it didn’t end up… We didn’t end up getting the recording, so we’re doing it over.

So, today we’re gonna look at the fears of gates 6 and 37; but before we start talking about those gates, we’re gonna do a quick overview of the energy of the Solar Plexus for people who are just joining us.

0:00:34.7 Lauri Wakefield: There are three streams of awareness associated with the Solar Plexus – feelings, moods or emoting and sensitivity. You’ll experience the energy of the Solar Plexus in a fixed and consistent way if you have it defined. And you’ll experience it in a variable way through other people or planetary transits if you have this center undefined.

0:00:58.2 Lauri Wakefield: If you have the Solar Plexus defined, then you have what’s known as Emotional Authority. Definition is created through a channel from the Solar Plexus to the Root Center, the Sacral Center, the Will Center or the Throat Center.

If you have a defined Solar Plexus, this is how you’re designed to make decisions that are best for you. In it’s healthy expression, you understand that waiting for emotional clarity is essential for making the right choices. You’re patient with the process and gain emotional wisdom when you honor that.

0:01:28.1 Lauri Wakefield: In its unhealthy expression, you tend to make impulsive decisions and can create emotional chaos for yourself and other people. If you have it undefined, you experience the themes of the Solar Plexus at times; but it’s not a fixed energy within you.

When you express it in a healthy way, you can separate yourself from the moods, emotions and sensitivity of others and not identify with it as your own energy.

0:01:52.8 Lauri Wakefield: If you have a completely open Solar Plexus, meaning you have no defined gates, you may struggle with not knowing what you’re supposed to feel.

In previous episodes, Leslee talked about the emotional waves of the Solar Plexus; but we’re not gonna get into that today. If you’d like to hear what she said about them, you can find that information on episodes 9 and 10.

Do you have anything you want add, Leslee, before we get into Gate 6?

0:02:17.3 Leslee Wegleitner: No, I think you covered it really well. So, we can just go right on to Gate 6.

0:02:22.2 Lauri Wakefield: Okay. So, Gate 6 is known as the Gate of Conflict or the Gate of Friction. It’s part of the Tribal Circuit in the Defense Sub-Circuit. Gate 59, the Gate of Dispersion or the Gate of Sexuality is its harmonic gate. When Gate 6 is connected to Gate 59, it forms the Channel of Mating or the Channel of Intimacy.

0:02:44.0 Lauri Wakefield: It’s also known as A Design Focused on Reproduction, which ensures the survival of humanity.

If you have Channel 59-6 defined in your chart, then your emotional waves are tribal. This definition has the most stable emotional waves. There aren’t high, low or erratic spikes in your emotions.

0:03:04.5 Lauri Wakefield: However, the I’Ching describes Gate 6 as being the most complex gate of the Solar Plexus. It can complicate things when you’re seeking clarity in the emotional wave because it’s linked to all three streams of awareness – feelings, moods and sensitivity.

The fear of Gate 6 is the Fear of Intimacy. It’s interesting though, because that’s what it desires most.

0:03:27.8 Lauri Wakefield: People who have this gate defined desire an emotional connection with others; but because of the nature of the solar plexus, there will always be a certain amount of instability. In other words, conflict is inevitable in any relationship. So there will be waves of friction or conflict. That’s just the way the emotional wave is designed for us to grow and mutate and reach the next level of intimacy.

0:03:50.8 Lauri Wakefield: It doesn’t mean that there’s necessarily a lot of fighting or that you’re mean to each other or abusive to each other. It’s just a time to step back from the relationship and allow things to pass. Either the conflict is resolved and intimacy is restored, or there continues to be some separation.

0:04:10.4 Lauri Wakefield: So, the energy of Gate 6 is about seeking intimacy with others. This includes relationships with family members, friends or on a romantic level.

When you have this gate defined through the Channel 59-6, it’s important to honor your emotional wave before jumping into relationships, especially romantic ones. Impulsive decisions can lead to mistakes and regrets.

0:04:34.3 Lauri Wakefield: If Gate 6 is a hanging gate in your chart, you’ll be drawn to the energy of Gate 59 because it has the ability to break down the barriers of intimacy.

If it’s a dormant gate in your chart, which means you have Gate 6 defined but you have an open Solar Plexus, you may not be as aware of this energy until it’s activated by gate 59 through someone else or a planetary transit.

0:04:57.9 Lauri Wakefield: I have the Channel 59-6 defined in my chart. Gate 6 is in my Conscious North Node. I do relate to the desire for intimacy with others. When I’m interacting with people, I don’t like superficial interaction. If I’m at a party or something, and you’re just kind of walking around chatting to people, that’s a different thing; but, in general, I crave an emotional connection when I interact with people. And I just like to feel connected to them.

0:05:30.9 Lauri Wakefield: When I was growing up, I always, always, always had a best friend. When I think back… and I was thinking back a couple of days ago, I could… For every grade or whatever, it’s like I remember the names of all my best friends. So it was just important to me.

I know Gate 6 is associated with conflict and friction. That’s a major theme of it, but I don’t like conflict. It’s not that I necessarily avoid it. I just try to find a common ground with people.

0:06:06.7 Lauri Wakefield: And just, if we don’t agree about… With each other about something, it’s okay. It doesn’t make me wrong. It doesn’t make the other person wrong. It’s just better for me if we just accept that we don’t see things the same way and just move on from it.

I do have someone in my life who kind of thrives on conflict. I don’t. But anyway, with other people she gets… I was gonna say like the relationship, but I won’t. It’s just somebody who’s in my life.

0:06:38.7 Lauri Wakefield: But she has conflict with people if she gets close enough to them, like a lot of conflict. She also has Gate 36 defined, which is the Gate of Crisis, which probably kind of accentuates it. But she tends to create drama and chaos in her own life through choices she makes. One thing I didn’t say is that she doesn’t have Gate 6 defined, but I do. So, when I’m around her, it activates it in her chart.

0:07:04.9 Lauri Wakefield: But anyway, so yeah, she creates drama and chaos in her own life. I don’t have to deal with her every day, which is a good thing. But there was an incident about a year ago over something we didn’t agree on. If you don’t agree with her, she gets angry. It’s like she thinks that you’re her enemy or something. I just told her, I was like, “If we don’t agree, it doesn’t make me your adversary. So, it just means we don’t agree.”

0:07:33.5 Lauri Wakefield: So anyway, for the most part, I’d rather not use my energy to try to get someone to agree with me or to do things my way. I’d rather just let it go and move on.

Do you have anything you wanna add to that, Leslee?

0:07:46.8 Leslee Wegleitner: Well, I have a couple of people in my life that have the 6. And then they both have the 35, 36, but one’s a Manifesting Generator and the other’s just a Manifestor. And it’s interesting because that intimacy is really… I have the 59, so it’s kind of like on their terms. So, if I reach out to them, what I’ve noticed is with the Manifestor, there’s always a little bit of that repulsion. That’s just kind of how their aura is. But with the Manifesting Generator, I’ve noticed also it’s just something that they’re in the mood or they’re not.

0:08:27.5 Leslee Wegleitner: I mean, she might text back; but it’s gonna be really short and you can just get the vibe like, “Not today.” [chuckle] And the Manifestor is the same way, but it is kind of fascinating because they do kind of… What do I wanna say?… kind of run that aspect of the relationship. It’s kind of like either they want you around and to have conversation or they don’t. That’s just kind of what I’ve noticed anyways through that Gate 6.

So, that’s all I have to share.

0:09:03.3 Lauri Wakefield: Yeah, it is interesting. When we were talking last week, I have gate… Well, you have Gate 42, Gate 40 also, but I have that gate defined and it’s the Gate of Aloneness. So, I think that that probably at times, makes it to where I just need alone time and I don’t… Interaction isn’t important. Frequent interaction sometimes isn’t that important. It’s just that when interaction is there, like I like it to be… I like there to be an emotional connection.

0:09:35.2 Lauri Wakefield: But it’s weird, too, how the energy – the things we have defined in our chart, that’s just who we are. It’s not something that we can change. We have to just have to look at and learn to work with it.

Anyway, you ready to move on to Gate 37?

0:09:55.5 Leslee Wegleitner: I am, yes. So, Gate 37 is part of the Channel Community – Part Seeking a Whole. And it is known as the family… The Gate of Friendship. The harmonic gate, which is the other part of the channel, is Gate 40, known as the Gate of Aloneness. And the channel is tribal and provides support and protection for family and community. It is concerned for the survival of its community and puts the needs of the community first.

0:10:24.5 Leslee Wegleitner: It also transforms individual ambition into teamwork. So, Gate 37 in a chart creates a strong focus on tribe, community or family, and it wants to create peace and harmony. The gate can hold the family together and loves the fellowship and the food of family and community gatherings. This is a channel…

0:10:44.2 Leslee Wegleitner: This channel is projected, which means it works out best if you are recognized by your community or you are clear about your place and role. Basically, how you fit in. And this gate has a natural nurturing, nurturer quality and tends to build friendships and alliances based on agreement, meaning makes agreement stating like, “You do this and I’ll do that,” or creating a win-win for all involved.

0:11:06.8 Leslee Wegleitner: This gate is also about acquiring inner peace and being able to maintain that inner peace, regardless of the outer circumstances. And if they become unbalanced, they can usually return to their peace and harmony quickly. This is if living from the strategy and authority, of course.

0:11:26.6 Leslee Wegleitner: When not living the true expression of Gate 37, you might find yourself not waiting for recognition from family or community or becoming or become unfair when creating bargains with others, also not keeping agreements and not trusting others to keep theirs. Another aspect is gaining back peace and harmony after a life experience. Might take you a little bit longer to find that inner peace again.

And then also the depleting of your energy reserves can happen because you choose to invest more energy into others and fail to replenish your own.

0:12:01.9 Leslee Wegleitner: And the last thing you may experience is the not-self behavior of Gate 37 is rejecting and actually walking away from being accepted in the community that you so crave. So, this gate’s passion is about peace, harmony and fairness, and wanting to bring forth agreements that support this.

0:12:20.4 Leslee Wegleitner: Gate 37 has a quality of being loyal and treating others with respect, and they require respect back and can feel heart-broken when agreements or loyalty are not upheld. When making agreements, it is important to be very clear to all parties with no assumptions, so these agreements may not be…

0:12:38.0 Leslee Wegleitner: These agreements may need to be revisited over time, so one can remain their inner peace and harmony. Gate 37 is about traditions and what their fearful of is losing traditions; and because of this, can be deeply conservative. The Gate 44 is Fear of the Past, which is in the Splenic Center, and it’s actually the mirror of the 37th gate. And these two are very old fears.

0:13:04.9 Leslee Wegleitner: The Gate 44 fear is more about the survival of the species, where the 37th gate is the fear of the survival of the tribe itself, not the species. It is more personalized in the Solar Plexus. It is the traditions that hold it all together; and if the traditions fall apart, you get to see enormous fear and nervousness in that Gate 37.

0:13:30.2 Leslee Wegleitner: So, I have the whole Channel 40-37, and it’s my Conscious Sun and Earth. So, I know this quite well. I’m a Triple Split, so it’s one of my islands that doesn’t connect to the throat or anything else. It took me a while to recognize or grasp this aspect of self, which is kind of interesting being it’s so prominent in my chart.

0:13:54.6 Leslee Wegleitner: But over contemplating it, I found it to be quite fascinating because I really do kind of do the bargain thing without even really recognizing it. It’s kind of like how I’ve always been in my life; and then through Human Design, it really pulled it forward – like what I was doing.

0:14:15.8 Leslee Wegleitner: And the loyalty in giving until I have nothing to give has been a big theme and definitely something that I’ve been working on in bringing myself back to that Strategy and Authority, which has helped a lot. Which also really helps in maintaining that inner peace and getting me back to that inner peace quicker.

0:14:38.2 Leslee Wegleitner: I’m not really necessarily traditional with the family holidays or even in raising my children. I wasn’t necessarily very traditional with that, but the core value of what family means and taking care of each other and supporting each other, definitely, I can relate to.

0:15:00.6 Leslee Wegleitner: So, on Wednesdays, I do dinners for my children and their significant others. And I do like to cook and bring that family all together, and we always have that Wednesday night evening. So, there is some of that. But I also have noticed within my emotional wave how I can obviously get really tired of it. I don’t… All of sudden it’s like, “I don’t wanna do this anymore. I feel like I’m pressured and it’s something that I have to do, and I’m the mom, and I have to make this huge meal and I have to… “

0:15:35.4 Leslee Wegleitner: I try to really cater to everybody’s needs, so we’ve got someone that’s doing athletics like to an Olympic quality. So, he needs so much protein and carbs and his macros. And then I have somebody else that’s got food allergies, and I’m trying to coordinate it all. And, normally, I’d love to do all that for everybody; but all of a sudden, I will hit my wall. [chuckle]

0:15:58.5 Leslee Wegleitner: I’m sure it has a lot to with my emotional wave and where I wanna put my energy. So, I will kind of back off and try to figure out a way to re-negotiate and go, “Okay, you guys, you bring dessert and you bring this,”; and then all of a sudden a week later, I’m like I wanna do it all again.

0:16:15.7 Leslee Wegleitner: So, it’s kind of fascinating to watch how that gets played out on a different level with the emotions and to just to be – how I can respond differently, and that becomes so irrational around it and just kind of do the bargain thing. And that’s where you can kind of start to feel trapped in traditional roles, like the laundry – who’s doing the laundry, who’s doing the cleaning of the house?

0:16:43.2 Leslee Wegleitner: And then, so I find if I know what I know now that I can always bring it to the table again and re-negotiate. It was a huge relief for myself to know that you know you don’t have to do everything and you can re-negotiate this; and then if you choose to do it, you just keep doing it.

0:17:02.9 Leslee Wegleitner: But when I was younger, I didn’t think it was something I could negotiate. I thought it was just kind of a locked in thing, so it gave me that… I think that was the fear of the tradition, like, “Oh my goodness, I have to do this for the rest of my life.” [chuckle] So I was like, “I never signed up for all this.” [chuckle]

So yeah, I think that’s about all I was gonna say about gate 37. Did you have anything to add, Lauri?

0:17:29.8 Lauri Wakefield: I just wanted to ask you, when you were talking about negotiating, do you think it’s more like… When you talk about negotiating, it’s more like within yourself that you’re negotiating and then you would ask which, “Can you bring the desert for dinner tonight?” Do you know what I mean? Where you’re not actually like negotiating. It’s something that you negotiate within and then… And then outwardly, you just ask somebody to do something differently?

0:17:56.6 Leslee Wegleitner: Yeah, it’s like the inner conflict. It’s that peace and harmony you know they’re talking about. It’s like you’re trying to keep peace within yourself, but it’s like, “Okay, you only have so much energy in the day.”

0:18:08.9 Lauri Wakefield: Right, right, right.

0:18:10.0 Leslee Wegleitner: So it’s like, “What needs to give?” And then my traditional role is I’m the mom. I should take care of all the food, and then it starts…

0:18:19.5 Lauri Wakefield: So you start feeling… You can start… You used to maybe feel guilty about wanting to change things up a little bit.

0:18:26.0 Leslee Wegleitner: Yeah. It’s kind of fascinating, and I know it has so much to do with that emotional wave. And the energy thing too. I’m a manifesting generator, so I’ve got that cycle and wanna use my energy for things that I love to do. And I do love…

0:18:40.7 Lauri Wakefield: Because if you don’t, if you don’t then you can get burned out too.

0:18:44.9 Leslee Wegleitner: Yeah, exactly, yeah. Being our profiles are 4/6. So yeah, so the burnout definitely is there. So yeah, it’s that authority is very important. But we will be going to that at another time. [chuckle]

0:19:01.2 Lauri Wakefield: Yes, we will. Anyway, I don’t have anything else I wanna say. So, we’ll just wrap things up, I think.

0:19:07.8 Leslee Wegleitner: Mm-hmm.

0:19:08.1 Lauri Wakefield: Thanks so much for joining us today.

In our next episode, we’ll talk about the fears that can be found in gates 22 and 36.

If you’d like to see the show notes for today’s podcast, you can find them on our website at www.alignandachievebydesign.com. The show notes all be listed under Podcasts Episode 11.

0:19:28.0 Lauri Wakefield: If you’d like to join us as we continue to explore the human design fear gates, please be sure to subscribe to our podcast.

Thanks again and have a great day.

0:19:35.9 Leslee Wegleitner: Thanks everyone